Choice and choosing how we feel
When things go badly for us, it can really make us down.
It can feel like being a hamster going round and round in a wheel of feeling bad, going nowhere.
This is because we are choosing to feel a certain way.
'Choosing to feel,' you cry? 'Surely we can't choose how we feel, can we?'
We are not saying that this is an easy thing to do: to get off the hamster wheel, and get on with other things, but we all know that we can really waste lots of time feeling bad and it doesn't help us to move on in our working lives.
So let's give it a try.
Feeling stuck
So let's look at this more closely.
Being a good leader means having to put yourself out there and this means you can become an easy target for people to pull you down.
This is why choosing how to feel is an important thing to practice.
Of course it hurts when people say you are 'not doing the right thing', or you've done something they don't like, but we do have a choice whether we then put the brakes on, or find a way to keep moving forward in our leadership journey.
Taking control of our feelings
I used to feel not worthy and not allowed because of my dyslexia and how people made me feel, but now, i choose to feel differently (Jon Adams, Sync member)
Jon has learnt to control his feelings about the bad things and feel better about himself as an artist and a leader.
Look how well he is doing now, after such a difficult time feeling so bad about his experiences.
He has just had a big exhibition in a gallery in Chichester.
Read a review by clicking the link below.
Deepak Chopra and the Gap
There is a little space called _the gap_ in between what happens to you and your response to it. (Deepak Chopra)
We have to learn to be in the gap.
That means, to stop and use it to make a decision about how we are going to feel.
One way is to pinch ourselves or ping ourselves with an elastic band on our wrist, or even to talk to ourselves, however funny that may seem.
'I am choosing to feel ok about this!'
Using friends to help you do this, is another way of learning how to choose to feel differently.
Waiting 24 hours before responding to a bad email or a decision is also a really good Sync tip for you to try.
Try these things and see if they help you Happy Choosing!
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